If you are working on your emotional issues on your own (limiting beliefs or negative thoughts) and want to find an easy way to move forward, questions are great way to do it.
Asking yourself specific coaching style questions will help you to think outside of the box and see your inner blocks from different angles, rather than the blinkered view that we become accustomed to as we get ‘stuck’ in a rut.
Do you have a BIG goal?
If you want to achieve a specific goal, for example starting your own business or moving to a new city or country, asking these questions will also help you to get clarity on why you want to achieve the goal, what your life will be like after you achieve the goal and what are the hidden inner blocks that are stopping you from reaching the goal – your limiting beliefs and past emotional trauma.
Try these 5 questions for starters….
1) What would have to change to make your life perfect?
To get you started, this question is the basis of everything that YOU feel is currently wrong with your life. So everything that you list in this answer needs to be dealt with carefully. Is it a limiting belief (I am not confident enough/I don’t have enough money) OR is it something that you want to change such as your job or a specific relationship?
All of these things can be addressed by using EFT or Visualisation techniques to change how you feel about them – OR you can make it part of your goal to change it (for example get a new job or start your own business). This is the time to decide what is a limiting belief and what is a true goal.
2) What are you tolerating/putting up with?
Following on from question 1, this is an interesting question because it will bring up some of the areas in your life where you are ‘settling’. Address anything that comes up with the usual techniques (journaling, EFT, Visualisations etc).
3) What would you try now if you knew you could not fail?
This SHOULD bring up your true goals, your life’s purpose or the thing that is most important to you but that you are terrified to try in case you fail. Once you have put a voice to your goal, it is easier to work on the hidden blocks that are standing in your way of achieving it.
4) Who should you be hanging out with – so that achieving this goal becomes natural (ie. who’s already doing it?)
So now we have some clarity about your goals, and some ideas of the hidden blocks that are stopping you from achieving them, we are now moving on to the motivational questions, the things that will really move you forward towards them. It should be obvious why this question has been included and yet this step is so often overlooked. But lets get real here – you are never going to achieve a goal of becoming a world class surfer if the only people you ever hang out with are sitting on the sofa watching TV! The same goes for ANY type of goal.
Find the people who are already doing what you want to do and ‘hang out’ with them, either in real life, at events or even online. You can get great insights from people just by being on their mailing list or on their Twitter/Facebook. If they make videos, you can also subscribe to their YouTube account.
5) What will happen (what is the cost) of you NOT doing anything about this?
Quite often when it comes to moving forward and taking a leap towards our goal we are worried what will happen when we act (we fear failure or just embarrassing ourselves) but this question is a great one for helping our subconscious mind to realise that there is a cost to NOT acting on our dreams. If we do nothing, we achieve nothing so what is the real cost of you not taking action and moving towards your goal?
What do you think? Do you use a journal? Have you tried asking these type of questions when Journalling or even just asking yourself the question last thing at night before you go to bed. This can be a great way to get in touch with your subconscious mind and it will throw back an answer at you the next day or a couple of days later (usually when you have stopped thinking about it).
I would love to hear your comments or feedback on this. Also, if you are struggling to erase your past emotional trauma and would like some help, please get in touch, I would love to help you.
Article source : http://www.healingthatfeeling.com/5-questions-to-ask-yourself-if-you-want-to-get-unstuck
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